Archive for March, 2013

Up for a cup of tea?

It’s Sunday afternoon and I am sitting enjoying a cup of Ginger/Lemon tea and chatting with my friend …

Gillian and I are discussing this upcoming Holy Week and the end to my Lenten journey with no cussing (last week’s blog) .  I tell her I am ending the week strong with big sacrifices…

  • No meat for the entire week (only fish)
  • No WINE daily (a big deal for me, great de-stresser)
  • No sweets
  • No dairy
  • Embrace the 21 day meditation I signed up for but didn’t start

I went shopping earlier and stocked up on fish and vegetables.  We eat pretty healthy, but the minute you decide to give something up, is the minute you must have it.  Today’s menu is Tilapia, sauteed with onions and tomatoes over brown rice, mushrooms and fennel with cumin, steamed broccoli and no wine.

Gillian is supportive and is certain I will be able do it.  She reminds me I can be pretty committed…so a week with extra yoga and all of the above should get me there.  I signed up for the Oprah and Deepak Chopra, 21 day meditation series,( 14 days ago)  and did my first session today…simply amazing.

It was appropriately titled “The Journey to Perfect Health”, which means the stars are aligned, so what better time to focus on my body and mind.  Deepak ends the mediation by saying “Simply with the change of mind, you can change your life”.

I believe it.   I am changing my mind and life.


    Up for a cup of tea?

It’s Sunday afternoon and I am sitting enjoying a cup of PG Tips tea (my favorite) with my friend….

Indira and I are talking about my giving up cussing for Lent as a part of my Lenten journey for the six week duration. REALLY?  You might as well ask me to be the emperor without clothes.  Honestly, I am trying but let’s look at what cussing really is.  Is it not just a stronger expression of how one feels? or used at the right moment just for emphasis?  To relieve stress and anger? For comedy?  It isn’t always negative; however I remember a time when I thought it was so vulgar to cuss. Today, it appears to be the norm in some circles, including mine.

So you might ask, how am I doing?  Not bad I say, not bad.  First week was hard, but it is a conscious effort.  There are other benefits because not only am I thinking about not cussing,  I am also thinking about what commentary I am passing in general.   Now that’s an AHA moment.

It is commonly said that 21 days makes a habit, so I would imagine that after 40 days I will be cured.  I am almost certain of it.

Is the 21 day habit theory a myth? There is no scientific research to support this theory.   It is suggested that this theory started with the observations of Dr. Maxwell  Maltz, a known Plastic Surgeon.  He notes in his book published in 1960 that it took amputees an average of 21 days to adjust to losing a limb.  He went on to say that this theory could be translated to any adjustment regarding life changes, hence the formation of the 21 day habit phenomenon.

So, how long to form a habit?  I decided to start drinking a cup of warm lemon water daily to start my day.  It is 2 months later and I am still doing it consistently.  I also decided that I would do 100 sit ups every day and let’s just say I don’t have a 2 pack.  I have concluded that it’s up to you, it may take one day depending on how easy the task, or it may take a year….on average the stats say 66 days…I  say MAYBE!

It depends entirely on you.


Up for a cup of tea?

It’s Sunday afternoon and  I am sitting, enjoying a cup of Peppermint Tea with my dear friend…

Holly and I are chit chatting about the importance of maintaining friendships. It appears we are all so busy and life gets in the way of staying in touch.  Social media has become the way to communicate, text messages, liking or brief comments on FB, Twitter etc, but good old fashioned time together and personal chats are fewer and further apart.  We all have different groups of friends, work friends, college friends, childhood friends, neighborhood friends and people who want to be your friend friends.  It can be overwhelming trying to keep up, even with those you want to keep up with. My friend and I have concluded that in order to remain close and connected,  friendships require great effort.  Holly and I have committed to this;  we will see how it goes. 

Research shows that there are multiple benefits to lasting friendships; not withstanding those family and “close” friends that we truly cannot bear.

The ones we love the most are the ones who we cancel plans with,  and expect them to understand.  Make a commitment and keep it, stay in touch, have coffee, write a personal card, leave a nice message or make a date,  but be consistent…..


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Theodore Roosevelt