Job Change?

9464706-background-concept-wordcloud-illustration-of-job-satisfaction  Up for a cup of tea?

I am sitting here chatting with my friends enjoying a cup of peppermint tea.  Karen, Lisa and I are chatting about new beginnings and remaining energized in the jobs we have.

When do you decide to leave the job you are in? What are the signs?  Quite frankly, are you excited to get up and go to work everyday? or is it just about bringing home the bacon?   A lot of us are so busy and overwhelmed that we don’t find the time to actually enjoy what we do.

More often than not,  when I am asked, “how are you?”  The response is always the same..”busy” or sometimes “stressed”  Take a moment,  ask yourself, are you that busy?  Are you productive?  The answer will be NO, especially if you are not motivated.   Laura Stack, productivity expert wrote an  article on “busy work” that you might find interesting. In the meantime, take some time to think about your situation by starting here.

Self assessment tips on job satisfaction:

  1. Evaluate what you like and don’t like.  Write it down.  Make the decision on  whether the things you dislike can change, and if not, can you live with it?
  2. Do you like the people you work with?  This is tough as most of us spend more time at work than home so it’s important  to like the environment we work in.  Does it have a positive effect on you?
  3. Strange phenomenon,  sometimes management won’t address when things are broken. How can you be a leader and effect change?   
  4. Do you have JOY?  Maybe it is impacting your home life and you are miserable to be around.
  5. Sometimes we can stay with the same company but may need a job/department change, not a company change.
  6. Money should never be the primary driver for moving jobs.  If you like what you do, the money will follow. However, if you have a family to support you may not always have the luxury of this kind of time.

My personal limit is 4 years in the same job and then I need change.  Everyone has their own time frame.  Some of us are just too comfortable,  afraid of change,  enjoying the routine of sameness.  Jobs and careers are not the same but to some are interchangeable.   The main difference depends on how much you enjoy the work, which then leads you to work harder, creating opportunity, leading to a career and a future.  We should all aspire to do more and find ways to bring freshness to our current role or decide to make a change.

It starts with you today.

shutterstock_55400329   Take the leap!



 gossip         Up for a cup of tea?

I am sitting with my friend enjoying a cup of PG Tips tea.  Bob and I are chatting about how damaging  gossip can be.

The dictionary describes GOSSIP as  “idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others” and RUMOR “as a story or statement in general circulation without confirmation or certainty as to facts.”

There is a thin line between Gossip and Rumor,  neither good for the person targeted.

Unfortunately, Gossip or Rumors may or may not be true, and in most instances shouldn’t be shared and talked about anyway.  We use it as a way to bond, to appear more important than we are, or as a juicy tidbit to share with friends.  It seems harmless enough in the moment.  However,  when you are the target of the gossip or rumor, the entire picture changes.  I was recently the victim of an untrue rumor.   It was hurtful and harmful to my job and reputation.  It was devastating, based solely on jealousy.  As I tried to understand why,  it  suddenly occurred to me how many times I had engaged in idle gossip; passing along information that was private but juicy.  Information I had heard from someone else.  This is how it all starts and then becomes a domino effect.  I was just as guilty.

You are truly not aware of the impact, until it happens to you.  It can be destructive. I would say STOP, THINK, PUT YOURSELF in the person’s shoes for one minute,  and maybe the information isn’t so interesting after all.  Would you appreciate it?  It gave me pause.  I am now more mindful and thoughtful of the impact I can have by passing along a simple tidbit.  Don’t be afraid to stop gossip before it starts;  It starts with you,  shut it down.


Gossip/Rumors are damaging!


Swans  Up for a cup of tea?

I am chatting and enjoying a quiet moment with my friend and we are talking about relationships.

Gillian and I are talking about moments when we look at our husbands and want to scream out in frustration and then the moment passes.  I can’t say that I know many married friends, who are raising kids, working, volunteering, managing a household and holding it down blissfully. Everyone has issues.  What I have learned is that there is a comfortable acceptance of companionship and finding a way of making it work, together.  

We all have the brilliant idea at some point along the way that we could go it alone, but in the long run that may or may not be true.  If you are in an abusive relationship of some kind then leaving is surely the right option.  In today’s world it has become so easy to separate and not make the effort to continue, but should be given more consideration especially when kids are involved.  Government statistics as of 2011 show that 36% of marriages end in divorce, an alarming number which continues to climb.  It also shows that women suffer more than men financially, usually  when the woman has been at home caring for kids.  Look, there are circumstances beyond our control where we don’t have the choice of whether to  stay together because one person makes the decisions and stands by it.  However,   when there is a chance it could improve,  then we must plunge in head first and work to fix the issues.   The grass isn’t always greener is a perfect expression, but sometimes we have the need to find out.  My girlfriends and I sometimes make the statement, “how am I going to get out of this?” ; there are many days like that…but like Alexander says in the popular children’s story,  “It has been a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day. My mom says some days are like that…Even in Australia.”

All this to say, sometimes we need to try a little bit harder, a little bit longer, and maybe, just maybe, the outcome can be different.  Someone has to take the first step.  Kindness is contagious. 



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Theodore Roosevelt