Up for a cup of tea?

It’s Sunday afternoon and I am sitting enjoying a cup of PG Tips tea (my favorite) with my friend….

Indira and I are talking about my giving up cussing for Lent as a part of my Lenten journey for the six week duration. REALLY?  You might as well ask me to be the emperor without clothes.  Honestly, I am trying but let’s look at what cussing really is.  Is it not just a stronger expression of how one feels? or used at the right moment just for emphasis?  To relieve stress and anger? For comedy?  It isn’t always negative; however I remember a time when I thought it was so vulgar to cuss. Today, it appears to be the norm in some circles, including mine.

So you might ask, how am I doing?  Not bad I say, not bad.  First week was hard, but it is a conscious effort.  There are other benefits because not only am I thinking about not cussing,  I am also thinking about what commentary I am passing in general.   Now that’s an AHA moment.

It is commonly said that 21 days makes a habit, so I would imagine that after 40 days I will be cured.  I am almost certain of it.

Is the 21 day habit theory a myth? There is no scientific research to support this theory.   It is suggested that this theory started with the observations of Dr. Maxwell  Maltz, a known Plastic Surgeon.  He notes in his book published in 1960 that it took amputees an average of 21 days to adjust to losing a limb.  He went on to say that this theory could be translated to any adjustment regarding life changes, hence the formation of the 21 day habit phenomenon.

So, how long to form a habit?  I decided to start drinking a cup of warm lemon water daily to start my day.  It is 2 months later and I am still doing it consistently.  I also decided that I would do 100 sit ups every day and let’s just say I don’t have a 2 pack.  I have concluded that it’s up to you, it may take one day depending on how easy the task, or it may take a year….on average the stats say 66 days…I  say MAYBE!

It depends entirely on you.


Up for a cup of tea?

It’s Sunday afternoon and  I am sitting, enjoying a cup of Peppermint Tea with my dear friend…

Holly and I are chit chatting about the importance of maintaining friendships. It appears we are all so busy and life gets in the way of staying in touch.  Social media has become the way to communicate, text messages, liking or brief comments on FB, Twitter etc, but good old fashioned time together and personal chats are fewer and further apart.  We all have different groups of friends, work friends, college friends, childhood friends, neighborhood friends and people who want to be your friend friends.  It can be overwhelming trying to keep up, even with those you want to keep up with. My friend and I have concluded that in order to remain close and connected,  friendships require great effort.  Holly and I have committed to this;  we will see how it goes. 

Research shows that there are multiple benefits to lasting friendships; not withstanding those family and “close” friends that we truly cannot bear.

The ones we love the most are the ones who we cancel plans with,  and expect them to understand.  Make a commitment and keep it, stay in touch, have coffee, write a personal card, leave a nice message or make a date,  but be consistent…..


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I am sitting enjoying a cup of peppermint tea with my friend Holly, doing a quick catch up.  We are “multi-chatting”, lots of unfinished conversations as we try to get it all in. While I am chatting away, she gets a text.  She needs to respond but multitasking is not her thing (multi-chatting is).  So everything halts as she stops to focus.  Who isn’t multitasking today?  Maybe Holly actually got it right.

Multi-tasking:  The act of juggling multiple projects or tasks simultaneously.   We all do it, but research shows that multitasking can actually reduce productivity by as much as 40%.  The brain cannot completely focus on the task at hand if trying to do multiple things.   It’s the switching between tasks that causes the brain to have a stop and start reaction, which ultimately slows you down, leaving more room for errors.

Effects on your brain. Check it out, it will intrigue you.

The question is, can you afford not to multi-task?  Would you be more productive if you didn’t?

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Theodore Roosevelt