Up for a cup of tea?

I am sitting and enjoying a cup of PG Tips tea and chatting with my friend….

Heather and I are discussing what everyone seems to be talking about, Sheryl Sandberg, COO at Facebook and her new book, “Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to lead”.  We are talking about how much things have already changed in our lifetime, but that it still isn’t enough.  We must embrace change so our kids will be better off.

The good news …everybody’s talking.  There are many of schools of thought and controversy about whether you agree or disagree with Sandberg’s book.  Some say she is victimizing women as the problem, blaming them for not speaking up or raising their hands for promotions as readily as men.   Some say the issue is bigger than that and she had it better than most.   I read the book and may not agree with everything she says, but it opens the mind to change behavior.  If you come away with 1 or 2 things that you can do differently (which I have), she has accomplished something.  It provoked thought around behaviors at work and at home.

She has America talking, women talking, men listening, people sharing ideas about a topic that is not voiced nearly enough. The NY Times ran a series of articles about Women in a Man’s World.  In the article, Ms. Dorner, Chief Executive at HSBC USA publicly states that it wasn’t until she turned 50 (now 58) that she realized that she could have done more to promote and bring women along.   She said she did not push hard enough to change the “status quo” but focused on her own career.  What an acknowledgement.   Women need sponsors in these organizations in order to be promoted; hard work is not always recognized and rewarded.  Mentors are great and serve their purpose for advice and guidance but sponsors bring you with them, recommend you, and make moves happen.  We should all be lucky enough to find sponsors the way Sheryl Sandberg did,  but in the meantime we need to Lean In for ourselves and make choices to elevate us.  We need to commit to bringing other women along as we move up.

I enjoyed her book and I say “Kudos for making America talk”.  That by itself will open more doors.

    Lean In my fellow ladies, anyway you know how.


Up for a cup of tea?

It’s Sunday afternoon and I am sitting enjoying a cup of Ginger/Lemon tea and chatting with my friend …

Gillian and I are discussing this upcoming Holy Week and the end to my Lenten journey with no cussing (last week’s blog) .  I tell her I am ending the week strong with big sacrifices…

  • No meat for the entire week (only fish)
  • No WINE daily (a big deal for me, great de-stresser)
  • No sweets
  • No dairy
  • Embrace the 21 day meditation I signed up for but didn’t start

I went shopping earlier and stocked up on fish and vegetables.  We eat pretty healthy, but the minute you decide to give something up, is the minute you must have it.  Today’s menu is Tilapia, sauteed with onions and tomatoes over brown rice, mushrooms and fennel with cumin, steamed broccoli and no wine.

Gillian is supportive and is certain I will be able do it.  She reminds me I can be pretty committed…so a week with extra yoga and all of the above should get me there.  I signed up for the Oprah and Deepak Chopra, 21 day meditation series,( 14 days ago)  and did my first session today…simply amazing.

It was appropriately titled “The Journey to Perfect Health”, which means the stars are aligned, so what better time to focus on my body and mind.  Deepak ends the mediation by saying “Simply with the change of mind, you can change your life”.

I believe it.   I am changing my mind and life.


    Up for a cup of tea?

It’s Sunday afternoon and I am sitting enjoying a cup of PG Tips tea (my favorite) with my friend….

Indira and I are talking about my giving up cussing for Lent as a part of my Lenten journey for the six week duration. REALLY?  You might as well ask me to be the emperor without clothes.  Honestly, I am trying but let’s look at what cussing really is.  Is it not just a stronger expression of how one feels? or used at the right moment just for emphasis?  To relieve stress and anger? For comedy?  It isn’t always negative; however I remember a time when I thought it was so vulgar to cuss. Today, it appears to be the norm in some circles, including mine.

So you might ask, how am I doing?  Not bad I say, not bad.  First week was hard, but it is a conscious effort.  There are other benefits because not only am I thinking about not cussing,  I am also thinking about what commentary I am passing in general.   Now that’s an AHA moment.

It is commonly said that 21 days makes a habit, so I would imagine that after 40 days I will be cured.  I am almost certain of it.

Is the 21 day habit theory a myth? There is no scientific research to support this theory.   It is suggested that this theory started with the observations of Dr. Maxwell  Maltz, a known Plastic Surgeon.  He notes in his book published in 1960 that it took amputees an average of 21 days to adjust to losing a limb.  He went on to say that this theory could be translated to any adjustment regarding life changes, hence the formation of the 21 day habit phenomenon.

So, how long to form a habit?  I decided to start drinking a cup of warm lemon water daily to start my day.  It is 2 months later and I am still doing it consistently.  I also decided that I would do 100 sit ups every day and let’s just say I don’t have a 2 pack.  I have concluded that it’s up to you, it may take one day depending on how easy the task, or it may take a year….on average the stats say 66 days…I  say MAYBE!

It depends entirely on you.


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Theodore Roosevelt